Step 1 with Self-care is knowing that you deserve to feel amazing, and that it is possible to feel amazing AND still do your job! In fact, even better than before 😉 Working in daily stress and tension is not a prerequisite to being a health care professional!
Yes our jobs can be stressful and there are aspects of the day that will challenge us from time to time, but there is no actual need for us to live daily in misery and tension and feeling unsupported.
Whilst there are many issues with the health care system that are yet to be rectified, the good news is that the power is still within us to make the changes towards well-being to empower ourselves to still feel well within the system. And then in time, of course the systems do need to change.
Feeling well is not about putting up with the systems the way that they are and accepting abuse, far from it.
Feeling well is not to please the administrators or the bureaucrats who are now exhorting us to ‘be resilient’ and ’put up’ with the failures and abuses in the system.
Feeling well is for us, because we deserve it and we are worth it.
Who doesn’t want to feel well?!
Step 1a is developing our quality.
Everything that we do in life comes with a certain quality. It is the quality of people that we feel and appreciate more than exactly what they do.
For example someone can yell at you “you are amazing’ but if they are saying it through gritted teeth and are angry at you, you will feel the deceit in the words.
If someone says with openness and love and care you are amazing, you will feel the warmth and the resonance in their words.
If someone touches you on the shoulder and it comes with control or is imposing, you will hate the touch, but if someone touches you with care and is unimposing, you will feel loved and amazing.
If someone helps you adjust your clothes, or tucks you into bed with cold rush and frustration you will feel it and you won’t feel cared for even though you are having something done to you that is supposedly caring. If someone does the same action with a caring presence you will feel cared for with that action.
Thus, it is the same with ourselves.
If we give ourselves food and it is rushed and just on the go, we will not feel cared for. It will be a functional empty exercise. But if we prepare our food in a way that is caring, and eat in a way that is caring of ourselves, then we will feel cared for.
Taking care of ourselves means taking care of ourselves in all aspects of our life, but it is the quality in which we do this that makes the biggest difference.
Step 1a in self-care is caring for yourself knowing that you are worth caring for and treating yourself in a way that is caring, if not loving.