Care is a vital part in health ‘care’. But what does this even mean?
Does it mean that we feel sorry for other people and are motivated to do good things for them from that sadness and sorrow?
Does it mean that unless we feel emotions for their experiences that we do not care?
Does it mean showing emotions and reactions to the experience of another?
Does it mean that we are not caring if we don’t react or display any emotions to what a person is experiencing?
Or is there something more to care?
We know that people who indulge in behaviours like smoking, drinking alcohol, eating too much and taking recreational drugs, going out late and not sleeping enough and not eating nutritious food are not ‘taking care’ of themselves. Repeated behaviours like this lead to an accumulated toll on the body.
But I question where do these behaviours come from? We would call these ultimately behaviours of self abuse, but what motivates a person to make these choices? In the case of excessive eating, perhaps a person may feel that they are taking care of themselves, using food as a place of care. When they feel down or sad, using food to make themselves feel better, to feel comforted. People who go and smoke may also feel as though they are taking care of themselves in some way, taking the time to smoke to help them to cope with life. Feeling comforted by the burning of the smoke filling their lungs.
But is comfort really the same as care? Now there’s food for thought!
What if the things that we have been thinking of as care, are actually forms of comfort?
And what if comfort is more about numbing what the body is feeling rather than deeply taking care of the body, providing the body with what it truly needs to heal?
What if instead, care is about providing the body what it truly needs to heal, to feel healthy and truly well and vital? Rather than give us something that makes us temporarily feel ‘better’? Continue reading